Was Prophet Muhammad a Womanizer

By Magdy Abdalshafy

Anti-Islam group lies about the number of the wives of the prophet saying that they were 60 while the  real number was (11), when he died he had (9) because two of them died in his lifetime.  So they claim that he was a fraud since he married such a number.

My Rebuttal

So what they would say when they know that all the prophets in the Torah  were polygamous

In Exodus 21:10, a man can marry an infinite amount of women without any limits to how many he can marry.

In 2 Samuel 5:13; 1 Chronicles 3:1-9, 14:3, King David had six wives and numerous concubines.

In 1 Kings 11:3, King Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines

In 2 Chronicles 11:21, King Solomon's son Rehoboam had 18 wives and 60 concubines.

In Hinduism

Lord Krishna had 16,000 wives and 36000 concubines

Lord Visnu & Brahma also had multiple consorts

Ksatriyas are recorded in the itihasas (Mahabharata/Ramayana/etc.) as having as many as thousands of wives & thousands of progeny.

In the epic, the Mahabharata the five renowned Pandava brothers sharing one wife Draupadi

Please note the following points regarding the  marriages of the prophet:

The prophet didn't marry till he reached the age of 25.

His first wife was 15 years older than him. He remained with her for 25 years without any new wife.

After the death of the first wife, he remained without a wife for three years.  His second wife was 55 years old, five years older than him, a widow who lost her husband and would be torture if she came back to her pagan family.

 The prophet's wives were all widows who lost their husbands (with the exception of Aisha).

Had the prophet a womanizer, he would have married many women while he was still in the prime of youth, not a little over 50.

Had the prophet been a womanizer, he would have accepted the idolater's offer of marrying him to as many beautiful noble virgins as he wished but on condition that he left his call. The offer also included amassing money till he became the wealthiest of all and also announcing  him a  king over them. ( The prophet was still very young when this offer was given to him, also this offer was made several times while the prophet was helpless and was facing the dangers of death.)

Reasons for the prophet's marriages

He married them to support them and to protect them from their pagan tribes

To attract more people to the fold of Islam, especially if these ladies were daughters of heads of the tribe.

He married two daughters of his companions who supported him to honour them.

Was Muhammad a child molester as the film states? The Plain answer is "NO"

The film comments on the marriage of Lady Aisha, who was, according to hadiths nine years. However, some scholars, according to some calculations, say that she must have been over fifteen.

However, since hadiths recorded in Bukhari, an authenticated hadith collection, says that she was nine years when the prophet consummated marriage with her, we are going to deal with this point.

Before we go neither Abu-Bakr nor his wife object to the proposal   of the marriage as the film states.

 Moreover, an honorable lady, seeing the hardships of life the prophet was facing, suggested Aisha to the prophet, this means that such a custom was prevalent at that time and it is not the prophet who chose her.

The prophet didn't think of marriage after the death of his first wife. His adherents , seeing the hardships he was facing especially he had two little children, encouraged this lady to start a talk with the prophet about marrying a new lady

Customs of Marriage was different a long time ago

A man  living in the 21st century should not  make his culture a model for ancient cultures to follow.

It is historically established that the Arab females in the early Arabia, like  the other parts of the ancient  worlds,  used to marry as  early as the age of nine. It was a prevalent custom.

Amro ibn Al'as, an important Islamic figure  , was 11years older than his son( this means that he was  ten when he married, so how old was his wife?

Please note that Aisha had been engaged before the prophet proposed to her and remained in her engagement for 2 years.

Please note that Aisha had been engaged before the prophet proposed to her and remained in her engagement for 2 years. (it was a custom at that time)

The Age of marriage in Ancient Civilization

The Age of marriage in Judaism and Christianity

How old was Mary when she gave birth to Jesus

According to the "Oxford Dictionary Bible" commentary, Mary (peace be upon her) was 12 years old when she  gave birth to Jesus. Please note that she was engaged to Joseph, ninety years old man, who consummated his marriage with her after Jesus was born. So how old was she when she was betrothed…at least around nine years.

Amro ibn Al'as, an important Islamic figure  , was 11years older than his son( this means that he was  ten when he married, so how old was his wife?

An Encyclopedia of Religion

Talmudic law fixed the legal age for contracting marriage at puberty.

The prevailing marriageable age for girls in Europe during the Renaissance was twelve years.

 the 17th century between persons who had not yet achieved puberty, as was also true in India until very recent times … .             

According to Christian Scriptures

"Now kill all the boys [innocent kids]. And kill every woman who has slept with a man, but save for yourselves every girl who has never slept with a man."Numbers 31:17-18 

 after the conquest of Midian and  Moab, and the great venereal plague, Moses (peace be on him) ordered that all the women "who have known a man" be killed but that "all the young girls, who have not known a man by lying with him" be kept alive for the Israelites.

According to this verse, the following enactments were issued:

Gemara: Our Rabbis taught: 'A girl of the age of 3 years may be betrothed by sexual intercourse.' "

The Babylonian Talmud

Since the only females left fit for marriage and wholesome relations were prepubescent virgins, a Jewish law concerning child marriage was enacted. That law is found in the Babylonian Talmud:

"Rabbi Joseph said, 'Come and hear. A maiden aged 3 years and a day may be acquired in marriage by coition.


Mishnah: A girl of the age of 3 years and a day may be betrothed, subject to her father's approval, by sexual intercourse.

The Jewish law

Today, the Jewish law for marriage, sets the age of consent for females at the age of 11 yrs. ) I do not know if modern Jewish law still allows (in theory) betrothal by intercourse as it was practiced in ancient times. 


The age of Marriage According to the Hindu Scriptures

A girl should be given  in marriage before reaching puberty

"A girl should be given in marriage before (she attains the age of) puberty. He who neglects it,

commits sin. Some (declare, that a girl shall be given in Marriage ) before she wears clothes."

Also read

"Let him give his daughter, while she still goes naked, to a man who has not broken the vow of chastity and who possesses good qualities, or even to one destitute of good qualities ; let him not keep (the maiden) in (his house) after she has reached the age of puberty. He who does not give away a marriageable daughter during three years doubtlessly contracts a guilt equal to (that of) destroying an embryo. Such will be the case if anybody asks her in marriage, and also if nobody demands her. Manu has declared that at each appearance of the menses (the father incurs the guilt of) a mortal sin."
-( Baudhayana Smriti ,Prasna 4, Adhyaya 1, verses 11-13)[Translated by Georg Buhler ,Sacred Laws of Aryas Part II,Oxford ,Clarendon Press, 1879]

The Age of Marriage According to the English Common Law

Historically, the attitude of the English common law was that a person under 7 yrs lacked the mental ability to consent to marriage, and that between 7 yrs and puberty there could be consent but not a consummated marriage.

At common law, therefore, the marriage of a person between the ages of 7 and 12 or 14 was "inchoate" and would become "choate" on reaching puberty, if no objection was raised. (Encyclopedia Britannica on English Common Law


The Age of Marriage According to the  Christian Marital Doctrine

The Church set the age for marriage at puberty, when girls reached the age of twelve and boys, the age of fourteen.

Children could be betrothed at seven years of age, although this would not be binding for another five to seven years.

The lay authorities accepted the Church's doctrine on marriage, but betrothals and marriages did occasionally take place before the parties were seven years old.      Ward, English Noblewomen in the Later Middle Ages

100 years ago

The age consent in the US and Europe only 100 years ago for girls' marriage was as little as 10

The Jewish law for marriage sets the age of consent for females at eleven .

I do not know if modern Jewish law still allows (in theory) betrothal by intercourse as it was practiced in ancient times.

The Custom is still practised

Today, in many parts of North Africa, Arabia, and India, girls are wedded and bedded between the ages of five and nine; and no self-respecting female remains unmarried beyond the age of puberty."(_The Cradle of Erotica_, Julian Press, New York:1962)

A recent study about the age of puberty says ".. Until recently, puberty that started at 8 years of age or later in girls was considered normal."

in the USA was 10 hardly 100 years ago and 11 in the UK, Talmud allowing 3 year olds to get married! etc.

In Japan, people can legally have sex at age 13, and in Spain they can legally have sex at age 12

In the USA last century, the age of consent was 10 years old.California was the first state to change the age of consent to 14, which it did in 1889. After California, other US states joined in and raised the age of consent too. (Source:

The French penal code raised the age from 11 to 13 only a century ago.In England, it was only in 1929 (70 years ago) that the ancient Christian minimum age for the marriage of females, which was 12, was abandoned.